The very talented C.B. Bryza shares her “light bulb” moment for ARE YOU MY BOYFRIEND? Be sure to read all the way through, take our little quiz and share your results in the comments to enter for your chance to win a copy of ARE YOU MY BOYFRIEND!


I came up with the idea for Are You My Boyfriend? nearly six years before I actually wrote it. In the summer of 2006 I’d been out of college (and out of my college relationship) for about a year. I was working full-time in the children’s division at a book publisher in New York, and more or less dating full-time on nights and weekends.

I guess the combination of constantly reading children’s books and constantly meeting guys who weren’t right for me made something click, because that August I drafted myself an email:

Will You Be My Boyfriend?–take on Are You My Mother? go around meeting different men…a musician, a stock trader, a painter, a consultant, a construction guy, someone in advertising, a nonprofit worker–jewish, catholic, foreign . . . trying to find her boyfriend

I never sent that email, and other than continuing to wonder “Are you my boyfriend?” whenever I met someone new, I mostly forgot about the idea until a friend’s baby shower in the spring of 2012. The theme of the party was children’s books, and the answer to one of the word games we were playing was P.D. Eastman’s Are You My Mother?

Except I put down Are You My Boyfriend? by accident, and when I laughed and told the other women about my mistake and why I made it, my friends encouraged me to actually write the book. So I did!

Half a decade after my initial inspiration, my approach to the topic was different: I wanted to tell a story that would make people feel better about themselves and about dating, in a format that would be both funny and familiar. Because I’ve read my share of self-help books and romance novels, but sometimes (say, after a disappointing date) I need a quicker fix.

I love that Are You My Boyfriend? gives grown-ups an excuse to take a pause and look at pictures (fantastic pictures, from the talented Simon Greiner) while also putting a fun and empowering spin on a subject that can sometimes feel too serious. I’m very grateful I finally got the book out of my head and into the world, and if you have an #AYMBF story you’d like to share, I’d love to hear it!


Take our quiz below to find out how well you can pinpoint a guy’s personality! Read through these amazing character cards and keep track of your A, B or C’s based on the answer that most represents your reaction to each of the guys. When you total your score at the end, be sure to share it in the comments along with what type of guy you’re most likely to be with for your chance to win! Comments will be accepted until 9:00 a.m. Wednesday, February 12. Click here for complete contest rules.

Do you know her

Have you ever asked yourself this question before?

Yes: A or B
No: C


tough guy

Yes, but we never dated!: A
Yes, I dated him: B
Nope: C

wealthy cad

Oooo, is he single?: A
Um, no thanks I’ll pass: B
All of the guys in my life are really sensitive: C

artsy lad

Can I borrow your beanie?: A
I like art, but I should probably stick with coloring books: B
Where did that wealthy cad go?: C

average dude

A, B and C because we ALL know this guy!

married and gay

Attraction instantly over: A
Your partner is a lucky person!: B
So, does that matter?: C

ex obsessed

You’re getting her name tattoo removed immediately!: A
If you’re that in love with her, I can’t compete: B
All three of us can be friends?: C


If you got mostly A’s: Your guydar (guy + radar, get it?) is on point! You definitely know how to read a guys’ personality. Because of this, we’ll assume you know what you like in a boyfriend and only seek out healthy, positive relationships. Right? Right??

If you got mostly B’s: Your guydar is mostly accurate. You can tell what a guy is in to, but sometimes you’re off the mark. Make your guydar more accurate by getting out there and practicing, girlfriend!

If you got mostly C’s: Honey, you need some help. Don’t try to characterize a guy unless a bestie with reliable guydar is around. Don’t worry, there’s hope for you yet! Especially if you pick up or download a copy of ARE YOU MY BOYFRIEND? today!