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Ah, the joys and perils of love. On our best days love is the stuff of movies a la Allie & Noah, Rose & Jack, Harry & Sally, etc. If you’re lucky, you find that special someone and all those mushy ~feels~ will last you until the end of your days…. however, a lot of us are (currently) unlucky, with no feels and no movie-worthy love to call home about. But that’s just fine! We’re here to tell you that YOU’LL BE OKAY, hence this fabulous sweepstakes with fabulous prizes to remind you that sometimes love sucks, but you’re still, you guessed it, fabulous.

 

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It’s Not Okay

It’s Not Okay

Andi Dorfman

Andi Dorfman, the beloved finalist of season eighteen of The Bachelor who infamously rejected Juan Pablo and went on to star on season ten of The Bachelorette, dishes about what it’s like to live out a love story—and its collapse—in front of the cameras, offering hard-won advice for moving on after a break-up, public or not.

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I Had a Nice Time And Other Lies…

I Had a Nice Time And Other Lies…

The Betches

In the age of every app that matches you with randos, the dating game has grown complex and confusing. We turn to the Betches to help us win the most important battle a betch can face--finding love in the modern world.

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Nice Is Just a Place in France

Nice Is Just a Place in France

The Betches

From The Betches, a book on how to deal with your problems when you have no problems. You're welcome.

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66 comments so far


  1. ashnich89

    I focused on my daughter and it helped me get through it!

  2. ericamw1

    i just ate lots of ice cream and chocolate and did a makeover

  3. juliaboykin

    Work, workout at the gym, supermom of 4 sons, short vacations on the weekends with family and friends.

  4. Suze Lavender

    The only breakup I went through is when I broke up with someone and the guilt was terrible. Even though I wasn’t the one who was being dumped I felt sad. I tried to stay friends, but it didn’t work. Trying to do the things I loved helped best. I wrote a lot of letters during that time.

  5. I just forgot him and start a new life ..

  6. middylou

    I had a two-year deal with myself to be single, but date whoever, and no sex. I was able to spend more time with friends and family, and learn to love myself even more than I had before. After that 2 year period, I found the love of my life.

  7. ninna81

    I got rid of everything that reminded me about him and moved on.

  8. Oh geez. My last breakup which happened after like 3.5 years being together….my mom came and hung out with me…trying to keep me happy. He and I had lived together, and all of a sudden I was alone.

    It was definitely a transition, one that thankfully my mom helped me with.

    Then after she left, I remember that I sat on the floor in the hallway and cried. Then out of no where, while crying, I realized I was ok….and the tears stopped.

    A short time after that I actually met the guy I ended up marrying. We have been married for 8 years now and have a 1 year old baby girl!

  9. frabjous

    My sisters and lots of tears and ice cream.

  10. Sharond

    Spent more time with girlfriends! Cleaned closets, ice cream, and chocolate!

  11. whybenormal18

    I cried it out, spent time with family and friends, and lived my life. Living well is the best revenge.

  12. msmeesh

    Went off with my girlfriends and then went out to get pampered at the spa!

  13. deburgha

    I found myself feeling utterly alone with a baby when we broke up. I grieved for weeks at the loss of my “family”. I woke up one morning knowing, with absolute certainty, that the break-up was the best thing that ever happened to because I really don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. And life goes on!

  14. hippiechick

    Upbeat music helped me. Only time can really get you over any breakup but happy music kept me from dwelling on the pain.

  15. morganpierce

    I dealt with my most recent break up by reading the Betches and drinking a lot of wine. And snuggling with my dog. You just have to remember that you’re better off without that person if they don’t think you’re worth being with.

  16. Kaylecatlett

    I’ve been married for almost 8 years, but the worst break up would have been when we first started dating. He was in the Army and I was still home with my family, many states away. The break up was harder because we were so far, but my comfort food was chocolate dipped granola bars and a 2 liter bottle of A&W cream soda. A lot of sleep and watching lifetime. I eventually got better. But we ended up rekindling our fire and later got married. So marrying the guy sometimes helps! 😉

  17. marthariffic

    Running is the main thing that really helps me, though wine is also good! Especially with girlfriends. My mantra is “keep moving forward”. It helps!

  18. wynne68

    Just broke up three days ago, right now everything is ok and trying to deal with it. All I can think about is moving forward in my life.

  19. sheilaco

    I cried a lot and went out drinking with friends.

  20. ChaunceyANP

    Kept busy and decided that it was another learning experience!

  21. Plsbitemenow

    Moved myself & son 6 hours away and started over. Having his family support me is still something I cherish every day!

  22. 14lorema

    Told him it was over a week before prom…I ignored him even though we still went together to prom… Worst night ever. But it was better to avoid the situation than deal with him.

  23. paigesmada

    I did as any other broken hearted college girl does, kept myself surrounded by my roommates at all times, and was a bit of a drunk mess for the first few weeks, but then I found that I wasn’t thinking about him (or drunk dialing him) anymore and moved on!

  24. I watch movies, eat ice cream, & clean.

  25. MoMoFly

    Read 2 horror novels back to back over a weekend with grilled cheese sandwiches & champagne!

  26. ktpotat

    Started an exciting new sport and tried to be grown up by staying friends with him and not bad mouthing him.

  27. Nanda62

    I am going through it now. I cry and sleep a lot.

  28. pmbelsom

    I moved to another state for graduate school, best decision I ever made for myself. And would of never met my husband if I didn’t take the leap!
    ~Amazing how leaps of faith lead lost souls to find pure happiness~ Andi Dorfman

  29. bhodges

    Lots of tears. Boxes of Kleenex. Lost about 10 pounds. Pretty much became a person who didn’t put much trust in people. Sometimes..I still don’t. Sorry, it’s not really a “yay” story. It honestly made me who I am today.

  30. I relied on my girls and threw myself into self preservation. The most important thing was me reaffirming that I was still worthy.of love, even if one guy didn’t think so.

  31. eabarnhart

    Went out and lived my life. Hung out with his friends, his rival fraternity, took every date party opportunity I could. I tried to make it seem like he was completely irrelevant to my life. Which included blocking him on Facebook and unfollowing him on Twitter and Instagram and Snapchat. Pretending they don’t exist is my favorite way of dealing with a break up; even when I want to throw a drink at them at the bar. His fraternity got kicked off the following semester and I think that was honestly the best feeling; he got what he deserved.

  32. I don’t think I ever completely got over my first love rejection. I cried and cried. I eventually moved on and met a wonderful man. Finding love with someone who was able to give it back in return was when I was finally healed of that pain. There will always be a scar on my heart though…

  33. I don’t know if you ever get over a love you wished it lasts forever. But what I did was focusing on work and working out more. I started doing the things I loved to do. Focusing on myself made me realize being single isn’t that bad and it helps your self-esteem , which also makes you more attractive to the opposite sex 😉

  34. In the usual way: tears and ice cream.

  35. Hannah2149

    When I went away to college, he started dating my best friend from high school.

    I spent two hours trying to reset her Facebook password so I could sign into her account and make his dick pictures her profile picture.

    It didn’t work, which is super annoying. (But, probably a good thing, because then I had to find another way to get “revenge.”)

    I began going to the gym all of the time and in the words of Drake, started wearing less and going out more. I also listened to a lot of Alanis Morissette. Byeeeee f*ckboy.

  36. futterz

    After some tears, focus on getting the best revenge body – hit the gym, eat healthy, and make yourself feel and look fabulous!

  37. chickey

    What a great question. I’ll be honest, I was devastated and thought I was going to marry the guy (thank goodness I didn’t!). He had told me that he didn’t want his wife to work and wanted a stay at home wife (this was after dating me for three years when I was clearly going to work after years of schooling). So it took me a long time, I did a lot of soul searching, sought out counseling, read a lot of self help books, started exercising and taking care of myself, and did things I loved, like got back into reading. It was a slow process, but I really figured out who I was during this time, and after that, I met the perfect guy, who is now my perfect husband! <3

  38. kamibryant

    I didn’t handle it well. Took a lot of ice cream, chocolate and wine to get me through my despair. And I had a lot of rebounds.

  39. mnjlove66

    Cried, then took a trip.

  40. JulyCrab

    I cut my hair off. I went from below the shoulders to a very short style. “He” really liked my hair long but it was definitely time for a change! And I had short for many years and loved it; so time to do something for me. I felt very refreshed afterwarda!

  41. I sobbed for a a couple days and then threw my emotions into writing. Then I went out with my friends and danced my remaining sorrows away.

  42. Barbiegirl

    I found someone better who is my soulmate!

  43. Easy 🙂 I made sure to be sweet as pie, even during the breakup, so he knew what he’d be missing. I hope his new girlfriend has the temperament of an angry bear.

  44. CoBe1962

    I was devastated! I moved out, found a new job and learned that I was still capable of doing everyday tasks – like setting goals that I wouldn’t cry every time I was reminded of “us”; setting personal mental and physical goals to get and stay healthy; I also entered into a master’s program at a nearby university. Money is a necessary evil but to the ex, it’s up there with godliness. With a master’s in technology I’ll make more money in 1 year than he will in 5. Lol, having my self-esteem and self-worth and not being his verbal punching bag is worth more than all the $ we would ever make together. So…it’s time to sit back, hands lazily behind my head, a full sweet ice tea glass and a wicked smile on my face because I came out on the better end – I healed and became a better me!

  45. Call the police. The file for a restraining order. Then move.

  46. Sandy S

    It took a while, but moving and meeting someone else definitely helped. Learned how to be treated well.

  47. BookAttict

    Double fudge brownies, Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream, single malt scotch and a stack of good books.

  48. shirleyt1982

    My worst break up was with my ex-husband. He had kicked me out two times before saying he wanted a divorce. So when he did it the third time I told him he better be sure because I wouldn’t come back to him when he begged this time. He said he was so I left. I was afraid I’d be weak and go back when he came begging, so I moved from where I lived in Arkansas, to where my brother lived in Pennsylvania! Of course, when I moved back about 6 mos later he begged me back, but I was strong enough to say no by then!!

  49. c1ns_14

    Dinner and drinks with friends, girl talk and girl time with friends, keeping busy, going out and meeting new people (not just for dating), and learning new things.

  50. lisamcf

    by spending a lot of time with my friends

  51. melissaaggie98

    I dealt with my horrible breakup by leaning hard on my girlfriends…I went out with them constantly and talked on the phone with them daily. They helped distract me through a very rough patch until I was back on my feet again.

  52. debraj1102

    With lots of alcohol and great friends!

  53. Savernal

    Chocolate, lots and lots of chocolate and re-reading old favorites from the keeper shelf.

  54. Moxhie07

    I was in a relationship for 11 years & found he had been cheating almost the entire time. It was difficult to deal w/and I basically cried, and blocked out the world. I would go to work, come home, watch television, read novels and drink and cry some more. He kept insisting that he loved me, so I gave into him and allowed him back, and ended up having our second child. I finally realized that my children deserved better, so I ended it for good. It took a while, before I saw that I deserved better as well. I’m now spending time loving my children and myself getting to know us better, and we’re all the better for it. I still care for him as the father of my children, but that’s all. Thank God for my children, now when I cry, it’s tears of joy, because I got past something that I never would.

  55. xiamenmom

    Not sure – right in the middle of trying to figure out how to get of an abusive relationship w/o my daughter or I getting hurt 🙁

  56. chessiecat1104

    I kept the dog….lol. It was the best part of that relationship anyway!

  57. Dfge841

    I spent time alone and cried my eyes out for two days. After that I kept busy and moved on. I took the mindset I was a lot better off and that he was a loser anyway!

  58. Jodihudson

    Ate, and locked myself in my room.

  59. chrisp1mon

    I cried everyday, drank wine and vodka for a year, and moved out of state! I have tons of regrets now!!

  60. thecharmed4

    To be honest, with quite a bit of tears. Also with the support and love of my sister.

  61. karmapenny

    I focused on myself. Ate better, exercised more.

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