Great friendships are a fabulous thing. In my Classy ’n’ Sassy series, the three women who work at the lingerie shop the books are set in are as close as can be. Mia and Bryn grew up together and Penny joined the circle a few years ago, quickly morphing from employee to friend. They have a very tight bond, and have seen each other through some horrific things, as well as the embarrassing and down-right-hilarious things. They tell each other what they need to hear, not what they want to hear, and even if they piss each other off, they find their way back. That’s what true friendship is all about.
I once read that women find their strength with their female friendships, men find it with their significant other. That surely varies from person to person, but I do think there is a lot of truth to it. Women understand each other in a way that men just can’t. I totally believe that whole Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus thing. We truly do speak a different language.
In my experience, friendships can come and go. I truly believe that people come into our lives for a reason, and when their purpose is fulfilled, they fade away. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. It happens, probably more often than we think. But others are there for life. Some you talk to or see on a daily basis and some you might only see once a year, or once a decade, but when you do reunite, you can easily pick up like no time has passed.
In my opinion, the key to a fabulous friendship is letting yourself be completely at ease, letting yourself take a chance and open up with no fear of embarrassment. You’ll be amazed to find that others experience the same things as you, and being able to commiserate is a wonderful bonding experience. Share in the joys, big and small. Allow yourself to be silly, because it makes the best memories. Surely no one goes to their grave saying, “I should have been less silly with my girlfriends.” I’m guessing it’s actually the opposite.
So be free and nurture those female friendships. They’re so, so important! After all, who else would you giggle with over Size Matters?